I guess this is piecing

[ovrrnbw]

Did, don't feel bad b/c you want this to work. You are genuinely good guy, and I can see that in the way you type up your posts. You deserve some happiness, seriously.

She is still all over the place, so do your best to stay calm. Detach maybe??? Hehe...

You haven't been too consistent yourself yet, so make a 180 there and be a leader. If it was the lacrosse team you'd be leading already, but this...this is hard. This is your W. Doing the right thing seems like it will hurt you, or anger her. But now you just have to do it.

I plan on telling her I want to be healthy and happy

Ok, what does this mean? And the rest after that, it just sounds like an attack. Who doesn't want to be happy and healthy?

Im not available to you until you treat me well

Simple, easy, this works. I dunno that you should bring it up just out of the blue, but I like it. It's a clear boundary.