I had not heard from my W since last week Friday when I received a text me a few minutes ago asking if I can take the dog for a few days since the place she is living is going to having maintanence performed and the dog needs a place to go. She also mentioned that she wants to go visit her family and asked if it can stay through next weekend. Naturally, I did not respond right away and after thinking about it told her to go ahead and bring the dog over to stay the next 2 weeks. While some may think that I am caving to her demands or reacting to her, the fact is, I do enjoy spending time with the dog, especially the long walks after work. At least in my mind, I feel like I am getting more benefit out of it than she is. Was I wrong to agree? Am I missing something?
So after seeing NGS in a few of the threads from the last 2 weeks, I decided I had to figure out what it meant (Nice Guy Syndrome). Afterwards I decided to learn as much as I can about it including buying a book on the subject from Amazon. While I am not a 100% fit with what was written, I am really glad that I did as there were many parallels to my life and it forced me to really think about things in a different way. I would venture a guess that quite a few of the LBH in this forum also have NG tendencies and could probably benefit from some self-reflection / learning while they work on GAL. I know I do not read all of the threads, but I am a little shocked that I did not pick up on the whole NGS months ago. I feel like this is pretty important that should be discussed more often amongst us newbies as I find the strategies on how to correct the NG behaviors mesh well with DB.
