I guess this is piecing

[ovrrnbw]

Did, here's my thoughts:

-don't talk about important things over text. Not with your W, not with anyone. Unless you're locked in with terrorists pointing guns at you, there's no reason to text.
-how in the holy hell can you talk about her sexually with another man? Doesn't that bother you?
-have you read my sitch? My W has come and left many times. The last time she was home for just over 3 weeks. Talking about plans together is great for most couples, but wholly inappropriate right now. She's getting ahead of herself just like my W. And why? B/c they don't want to live in the present and deal with how their actions have degraded the relationship and trust. That's hard. And dreaming of better times and working towards that is much more satisfying. But if you don't deal with the trust issues, you will be right back where you were. Ask me how I know...
-it's good that she has told her friends and family
-do you not just want to puke when she talks about you and OM in the same breath?

I really hope that your W is serious and committed to fixing this with you, and I'm happy to see you progressing as a person and DB'er. You really have made some positive changes. Just do your best to be honest with yourself and her. I don't think you have an issue with being mean while being honest, but I do think you try to make excuses for her sometimes.