I think it depends. We had several R talks right after BD and we had two counseling sessions. I feel like we each understood each other's concerns and feelings.

We also didn't have an affair in our situation.

Our last big R talk was in counseling, and at that point, H was still angry with me.

We've had short comments about R since then. I think that is sufficient in our case.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16