I think it depends. We had several R talks right after BD and we had two counseling sessions. I feel like we each understood each other's concerns and feelings.
We also didn't have an affair in our situation.
Our last big R talk was in counseling, and at that point, H was still angry with me.
We've had short comments about R since then. I think that is sufficient in our case.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16