Thanks guys, its been a long time since my life was normal. Now being single is starting to seem normal. Today I picked up my kids. Normally I would knock and wait. Today, I knocked and then walked back to the car so I wouldn't have to talk to WW. The kids came running out and off we went. I'm going to continue this for as long as possible. The WW is so wrapped up in this OP that I finally realized I 100% dont matter to her. My d15 found a card she bought for OM stating how sexy he was and "I love u" ..and now he's staying the night when kids are not there. Like an idiot I told her it was wrong and he shouldn't be staying etc. She basically told me that he can stay when ever the kids are not there. She is to the point of not hiding it as much. Does it hurt? Like nothing I've ever felt. But its reality now. Before it was believing the lies. Their whole relationship is built on lies. It's so pathetic to think they think it's okay. I've read that usually affairs rarely last. I know I have finally let go. The cycle may come around and get me, but I plan on muscling through it. I know my value is way higher than I've shown. By not being readily available and being a safety net, she will see I've moved.on. No more NGS. Like someone said..you cant nice them back...very true. I seriously shake my head and whisper WTF to myself when I think of her behaviors. One of my biggest problems is finding stuff to do..all my friends are married and busy. I tried calling a few friends last night and nothing. Hopefully it will all come in time. I'm not sure what W has planned for D papers. She wants me to print my retirement info so she can give it to her L. I know what she wants and she's actually going easy. But I'm getting me a L just in case. Just broke right now. She did tell me she's not in a hurry anymore. Probably because she more in a comfort zone w OM...who knows. I try not to think about it anymore. Well, enough rambling out of me. I will reread the validation sheet. Thanks again for all the support.


ME 47 W 38
M17 T20
Separated 5/20/18
D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed
4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15