They are unhappy in their lives Nothing could change that, not the new job, new relationship, new house or friends or new freedom or anything else The unresolved issues of their past and childhood haunt them and they have no way to recover because they don't look for inner help they look to escape the pain with affairs, alcohol , drugs parties and fun and that catches up to them and creates a spiral downhill they look to project the anger on us--so it makes sense to them
As for you- you need to feel safe, and between your L and therapist, I know they can help you find solutions Her behavior is unacceptable
My XH also had a crazy about him at times One afternoon he yelled at my 5 year old S, saying he didn't want him causing us both pain
I remember once we went to a group meeting with friends early on in the crises before he left and he took a pack of sugar and made lines likes drugs on the table They are no longer the same
Keep looking for your recovery You will find your way out of this- Just takes time
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
