I said what you suggested R2C. I said I was sorry for accusing him of drinking. He said not to worry about it and then said “you’re not the first to think the worst of me”. And I didn’t say anything. I was going to validate but couldn’t find the words and he started talking about the baby. I said about 4 words and that was it.

Now I’m waiting to get my massage which will be nice. I think I’ll grab some dinner after and maybe a bowl of ice cream like you’ve suggested pain! smile when I get home I guess I will just say For him to have a good night. He will be back over tomorrow evening and I will leave again.

While at the house as I was leaving he said he wants to take the dog to the vet next weekend. I absolutely have NO expectation of him following through on that but I said “ok” and left. I have such an internal struggle with how I interact with him, bc I really do think he mistakes my kindness for acceptance of what he is doing somehow. But this week was the first time I ever spoke up and said what he’s doing disgusts me. So I hope he doesn’t forget that and just thinks “oh she’s ok now”. Bc I’m not, and I don’t want to be a doormat. I need to pull away. I think it’s time to revisit sandi’s rules.