Did you tell her you were ready to move forward with D and would like to sit down and discuss?
Yes, thats when she said that she wanted to buy me out. Now that she knows that she cant refi the house with my name on it she slowed everything down. I just want to be d'ed at this point. This girl is not even close to thinking anything through. I get the whole process, I hope and pray she has a new man so we can move forward. This is now just emotional abuse from her. I am also starting to see where she has some unresolved issues from her childhood. She needs help.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
Ok.......so you did you ask/suggest a specific date and time where you could meet and discuss? Something like I understand you would like to buy me out however I think it would be beneficial for us to sit down and discuss as there are many things we might be able to mutually agree upon. When are you available?
Ok.......so you did you ask/suggest a specific date and time where you could meet and discuss? Something like I understand you would like to buy me out however I think it would be beneficial for us to sit down and discuss as there are many things we might be able to mutually agree upon. When are you available?
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Yes, I repeatedly asked to discuss, she will not. This is the frustrating part, I think we could save a lot of time just talking out the divorce instead of the lawyers doing the work. I tried its just that she doesnt want to talk about it. She said she wants to buy me out but when we had the meeting she couldnt sit through it. I believe it was guilt. But again she is not talking so I dont know.
I text her today telling her all the ppw is ready and to come pick it up, she said thank you and if I made a key for her. I told her, that her key works the back door, I got no response. I then text her a few hours later asking if we could please get this done by christmas. Still no response...
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
Got a response this morning that she doesnt want to use the back door and that her L is working on the proposal. So she filed on Jan. 5th we are now Sept. 19th and nothing has been done. My L who is my friend has been pressing for the proposal, I have been copied in on the emails. So hard to understand.
Kids are starting to wonder whats wrong with their mom as she has had limited contact with them. I do not have any answers. My children are adults so that makes this a little easier.
GAL, big, huge Octoberfest at the social club on Sept. 29th. Really looking forward to it. German bands and food, lets not forget beer...lol.
Ran 4.5 miles last night and I will run 25 miles this week.
Really looking forward to my S21 graduation on Oct 15th.
Oct 6th is a big UFC fight and I am having my friends over for a get together... finally able to do this.
On the future relationship front I do have a very attractive lady who wants to go out with me, she works at the social club. Of course her friend came to me and said hey why dont you ask out JA.... I said that I am just not ready. She understood... soon i will venture out.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
W tried to get in backdoor and couldnt seem to get in, I then see that she left the gate open so I text her and said that i will leave the front door open and all ppw and extra key will be left on dining room table. She came in last night and took her mail and ppw & Key. She then leaves the front door unlocked. This is just annoying and although we live in a nice area there have been some recent breakins that she knows about. Its hard not to think that she is doing this intentionally.
I work tonight and do not have plans for tomorrow night yet but recieved a text from a lady friend wanting to go out I told her I would let her know.
I have run 17.5 miles this week and will hit 25 for the week as the weekend I can always run more. Feels so good!!
I have been doing pushups and situps for the last 8 weeks, this is something new for me and it is paying dividends.
Sept 29th is a big Octoberfest at the social club and I cannot wait, going to be a great time.
S21 just informed me that our dog caught his first squirrel, he didnt kill it just grabbed it then dropped it and it ran away.
S21 is looking forward to graduating the academy in about 3 weeks, I am really proud of these kids.
Peace...
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
First things first, it is 5pm where I live and I am just waking up. I am supposed to run at least 3 miles today to hit 25 for the week, I dont know if its going to happen. Thats bc I had a great night last night, went to a house party, then social club, and then brought home a lady friend. She went home at about 5am. Good times!
I have a busy week at work this week, all set up.
NC with W at all, I now understand that if she had moved out sooner it would have been better for the overall sitch.
W has not reached out to the kids at all, S21, S22 are really getting annoyed. Its like she is becoming a stranger to them.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
Finally got W's proposal and it literally is a crazy proposal asking for money that doesnt excist. Although I own a business its not like the money is not traceable, everything is on the up and up. Well she asked for $1800 a month for the next ten years. My L started laughing and assured me this was a first proposal and that things always start out high. I am at the point where I really want this done but I also do not want to give up everything. W has decided that she does not want to buy me out so the house does have to be sold. We are waiting for her to hire a realestate company and also she needs to do a personal belonging list and value all items in the house.
GAL has been slowed downed a bit bc I am swamped at work. I am having a party at my house tomorrow night with about 10 people coming over for the UFC fight. Should be fun.
I am currently having trouble hiring new people as so many cannot pass a background check or drug test... ugh I need this to be done so I can get some time off.
W has had no contact with the kids since Aug 26th. No need to understand why, I do not need any answers anymore.
D19 called me yesterday that she needed money, I sent her $200.00. She was so grateful, I want to make this as stress free for her as possible.
Ok, going to clean the house and prepare for tomorrow, peace!
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
Ok so I have a bit of a dilema. My S21 graduates on Monday oct 15th from Police academy, we just had a convo about who is coming. I asked if his mom was coming and he said he doesnt know. I asked him if he has spoken with her and he said no he texted once since she moved out which was Aug 26th. I gave him several options including me staying home if he wants and he said absolutely not. His GF is coming home from college just for the graduation. He thinks is going to be uncomfortable for her and anyone else that comes. He wants my parents and his grandmother from W's side to attend. I told him I have no problem with whatever he decides.
This is such a tough situation for these adult children, I know its easier for them as adults but its still hard. I told him we will make the best of the day no matter what and i would like to take him and his GF out to dinner after. He said he would let me know.
Great weekend of fun I had my first party without W and everyone had a blast. The UFC was crazy, the yankees vs redsox was on so it was a good night.
Busy week of work coming up, not looking forward to it but glad to be busy.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
I read all your updates, thanks for posting them. You are trucking along, you know what you want, you don't seem mad or angry, why is your W leaving again??? Haha seriously. I guess you've had some time since BD to work on all this.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
Ok so I have a bit of a dilema. My S21 graduates on Monday oct 15th from Police academy, we just had a convo about who is coming. I asked if his mom was coming and he said he doesnt know. I asked him if he has spoken with her and he said no he texted once since she moved out which was Aug 26th. I gave him several options including me staying home if he wants and he said absolutely not. His GF is coming home from college just for the graduation. He thinks is going to be uncomfortable for her and anyone else that comes. He wants my parents and his grandmother from W's side to attend. I told him I have no problem with whatever he decides.
This is such a tough situation for these adult children, I know its easier for them as adults but its still hard. I told him we will make the best of the day no matter what and i would like to take him and his GF out to dinner after. He said he would let me know.
What is the dilemma, is it regarding whether W should be invited or not? My attitude about stuff for the kids is always that both parents should go because both parents should show their support and love for the kids. That doesn't mean you and W have to drive together or even sit together, but don't try and block her from going. Don't invite her yourself or try to make her go if she doesn't want to, but I would suggest you tell S that you think he should invite her and he should tell her you are fine with her being there.
