Is there hope? I have a WW

[LANE777]

Hello everyone. I think there comes a point in everyone's sitch where the WS has gone too far, created too much hurt, and has done way too much damage. You hit a point where you just don't want to do it anymore. I call it acceptance. I know my WW will not change. So, I'm done trying. I know I held on for dear life for 4 months. I would detach for a week or 2. But would always slip back into puppy dog mode. Last Tuesday was the day I decided I don't want to do this anymore. She is in a full on relationship with OM. They spend the night together. So yeah, everything shes doing is wrong and hurtful. I now find myself not caring as much for her. I get a little angry thinking about this guy and my W wrecking my family. I then tell myself its over and not worth the fight. The energy that is put into this could be spent easily elsewhere. Last night she sent me a text. I saw it and didn't even care to respond. It was about kids so I did respond this morning. I hope this attitude I've had will stick. It feels good to have confidence and find a little pride in myself knowing I am a great person. I am a great father and have absolutely nothing to be sorry for anymore. When people say you need to detach and GAL. Im finally just getting a taste of it now. And it feels great ! For those of you still hanging on for dear life. I recommend letting go 100% for just a few days just to see how it feels. Don't look at your phone. Don't drive by their house, dont sit and wait for any opportunity to make the tiniest bit of contact. Just go about your day like a single person would do. Smile at yourself in the mirror while your driving and listen to your music loud. Go have fun and let it all go. You all have so much left to do with my life! So, here the other part. Dont expect anything to happen except your own life getting better. If my WW came back today or next week. I am literally at the point of saying " I dont have the energy for you anymore".

Don't get me wrong. I'm still very heartbroken, but its time to move on. I love and miss my old W. But she is gone. The new person is so different and I'm not interested this wayward, lying,cheating, untrustworthy person. She tried to tell me she was a good person the other day and a great mother. I just validated as the lies spewed out of her mouth. Her life is pathetic to say the least. We were a religious family with great morals. She was a modest woman and had a great heart and personality. She is now a very selfish person with a cheating heart. Good luck to her and her new life.

I am finally feeling happy to go do things with out the turmoil in my mind and heart. Im on the mend!!!

Like I said, I hope I can keep this up!!

Lane