From the outside looking in, does it seem like I have more power in this than I am aware of?
Absolutely.
It is critical for you to be able to step outside your sitch and look at it from a logical point of view. Like looking into a fishbowl.
Do you want to know my secret? When I help you, I help me. I get to THINK really hard about a sitch in a different fishbowl. My emotions are in check. I get to read all the other responses from people looking into the fishbowl.
Guess what, When I need to look into my own fishbowl, when MY emotions are high, how much easier is it that I can make a logical rather than an emotional decision?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
