A quick post from a new member browsing the site. Stumbled upon this thread and was really impressed by the support shown. A lot of the quotes have been useful to me too so Thanks for that
Hope that my thread will develop in time and that I will be able to offer similar support to others too.
Yesterday, he really opened up and talked with me. He still wants us to be friends. Not sure where that will go right now. But he agreed that here lately our communication was much better and our friendship was closer.
He kept saying the D was something he needed for him. That may be the only way he could let go of everything that happened in our marriage.
I know I have maintained all along that I won't try to get back together after the D.
But I believe a close friendship could be possible.
The COBRA deal I think was specifically so I don't have to go off of the Zoloft!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Thanks for checking in. Well, things went well if you can call anything like that going well.
When he left last night he gave me a hug and said "cheer up" I just looked at him, and he laughed and said I didn't know what else to say. We laughed. We still seem close. I hope that lasts. I do value his friendship. Probably more now after this test of fire than I did before.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Actually CHL mostly drove the meeting, I occassionally requested things like the insurance and he agreed and added it.
He pretty much agreed to anything I want. We haven't actually split all the household contents but we both agreed we didn't see a problem with that so it didn't need to be a part of the agreement.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I feel pretty drained and am glad today is probably going to be a rest and take it easy day.
When CHL called last night I expressed that I was still processing things and he volunteered to call and maybe come over if he doesn't work all day today.
We'll see how that plays out. I know tonight is he and J's night to go to the training club, so I'm not counting on seeing him today. But right now I feel mostly ok.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Pam -- I just wanted to let you know that I posted a "warm wishes" thought on CHL's thread. I hope that doesn't make you feel strange or find me strange!
I'm only mentioning it so you won't wonder what's up since it bumped up his thread.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
