Husband cheated, left, trying to DB 5

[SteveLW]

Hang in there kech. I know it is hard. The anxiety over all this is immense, I felt it with my W too. For me I think it stemmed from the powerless, lack of control I had. That is why DBing is so important. Because trying to exert power and control over that which you don't have any will only make it worse, drag it out longer, and ultimately result the thing you are trying to avoid.

kech, I am not going to lie, D might be your ultimate destination. As R2C said, none of us can predict the future. I wish I could assure you that the path you are on will ensure ultimate R. However, chances are against it. However, DBing gives you the best chance. All of us here tried pressure and pursuit, and saw how quickly that pushed our WAS away. We then all tried DBing.......at best with 50/50 chances (based on the anecdotal evidence). But that is still better odds than pressure and pursuit.

So yes, breathe. Surely by now you are feeling better than you did a month ago. If not, then you need to continue your search for the right IC.