If-When you receive divorce papers , take them. Do not read them until later (like the next day-or weekend). Take all the time you need to process what they say.

Any questions about them from spouse, respond with "I will let you know when I am done reviewing them"

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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