Thanks all. May have had a backstep tonight. H was late tonight bc of “work”, he texted me and asked if he could still come. I said yes. An hour and a half later he still wasn’t there. When he showed up he was not in his work clothes, and I asked him if he had been drinking. He immediately got mad and said he hadn’t been and that he had been working all day and I said ok well you obviously stopped and changed. He said he did and was basically just telling me he had been working all day and then drove an hour and a half home and he can’t believe I’m giving him a hard time. And I said “it’s your night!”
Basically we got into an argument and when I went to leave he was saying how he had to cancel plans next weekend to watch her on my night and how now I’m going to have fun and he’s just been working all day. And I said “I’m not going to have fun!” And he said “where are you going?” And I just shut the door and left. I was about to cry so I just had to leave.
I shouldn’t have accused him of drinking because he clearly wasn’t. But I was just upset he was so late and my mind makes up a million reasons why and he’s just so unreliable and he doesn’t see it.
But now he’s definitely going to have a bad taste in his mouth because this is the kind of stuff I used to get on him about all the time, but almost 2 hours later is a lot! Especially on top of already being late 2 hours earlier. So now I have to go back home soon and I’m sure we won’t speak and he will leave which is fine. He texted me earlier (prior to argument) and said he would like to come over and watch her both Friday and Saturday night this weekend. I said ok.
I just don’t like that we argued and then he goes off to OW. Us arguing just justifies in his head everything he’s doing, and I shouldn’t have let my mind go there and I should have just left the minute he walked in. We haven’t actively argued like that in person in a pretty long time. Ugh.
