Steve, Thanks. I will wait to see action for sure.
LITB, I am no longer afraid of his anger. What causes me such anxiety is thinking his relationship with OW is getting deeper with time, and that is enough to literally make me vomit everyday. And it has.
That doesn't mean things are great there, or that you don't measure up. I read texts in my W's phone last month between her and her sister talking about the OM, how he spends too much money, I know from other people that he isn't a very motivated person and has no real career, I know from everyone and myself that he is a momma's boy. He literally told me I was lucky his dad wasn't home when I confronted him back in April. He said that standing behind his mother, with his brother standing next to them.
The OM/OW is not worth worrying about. They are POS's, and usually a step down, as evidenced in most situations. They are chosen as someone who is controllable by the WS.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
