He told me today he is going out of town in 2 weeks. He is supposed to have a friends bachelor party that weekend, and last he told me he didnt think he was going to go. Im assuming thats where hes decided to go since its the same dates, but of course im wondering if maybe hes taking a trip with OW or something. I wont ask, but my stomach is definitely only knotting tighter thinking of it all. I wish so badly we could just sit down and talk. Im afraid if I avoid him like I am thinking, it will just push him even further because he will see me as angry. But if I am too pleasant I feel like he will take it like im just going to pretend to be ok with this all, which I dont want to do anymore.
Any and all advice/suggestions welcome. Thanks.
Everything Steve said, and I'll add to it. If you're feeling pain thinking about him and the OW, stop thinking about it. Easy, right? No, but that's why we GAL. I noticed last night I was at softball, then hung and talked for another 1.5 hours, and on the way home I realized I hadn't thought about W at all. Great! But it takes us actively deciding to GAL and committing to the activity before we can stop thinking about our sitch or OM/OW.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
