been “going dark”/NC for two months now.( actually i replied angrily to her message , instead of validating, calling me immature and bully on 9/22). anyway, one of the reasons why she BD’d is because according to her i was emotionally/physically unavailable. tried to read through the “Going Dark 101 forum” and i cant seem to find an answer to when should i go a little gray or change my position. maybe it’s there, burned too many brain cells during high school, so can’t comprehend that well.
i am a fairly patient person. WW went to finish schooling at another country, she took D(6 mo/o) with her where her family lives, for almost 6 years. i just come and see them every 4-6 months for about 2-3 weeks. never had an A or a fling while they were away.
so i guess what am asking is, if patience is what is needed. i think i can attain that. but if there’s other things to consider, like come out of the dark, go a little gray, etc., that’s where i’m at a lost.i just feel like going dark is more of the same, or i might just be doing it incorrectly.
