The counselor needs to be filled in on what's been going on and how momma bear wants baby bear to lie to papa bear to cover up the fact momma bear is sleeping with someone in papa bears bed......and it's not papa bear!
Plus, that earlier post where she was saying if D14 didn't want to talk to her (mommy dearest) then she wasn't interested in speaking to her teenage daughter either, Great sign of maturity and corporation to help your daughter there, Mom. You may have to remind the therapist which one is the D and which is dear old mom.
thanks again for chiming in sandi.
this is where am conflicted. do i approach D14’s IC myself or do i just let D14 speak for herself? the way i see it if the information comes from me, it will look like am just throwing WW under the bus, which i would love to but i won’t, hence the hesitation.
it’s been a couple of sessions now wherein IC sits them down, D14 reads her jjournal about how she feels about WW, and at the end, IC tells WW that she needs to rebuild R with D14. so WW tries her “best” when she doesn’t get the outcome she wants from D14, all that IC info and talk goes out the door. WW goes back to asserting her parental authority, raises her voice, screams at her. i understand the frustration between the two of them, but then as what you’ve said it still boils down to the question, who’s the adult in that equation. and i know for a fact that D14 is angry and very frustrated, and she has the attitude that if she doesn’t want to talk, she won’t.
