Unsure what's next, what to do.....

[Wanted1]

I ordered the DR book yesterday. Should be here tomorrow. I will definitely check out No More Mr. Nice Guy. Appreciate that suggestion.

I've played sports all my life. Watch a lot of sports, hunt, fish, golf, scuba dive, spearfish and the like.

I'm not trying to make excuses for my "friends" and I hate to be so blunt about it, but both of them are married to women that most men wouldn't find "attractive." On the flip side, my W is VERY attractive. From an idiotic guy's point of view, if they are with someone who isn't that attractive and someone incredibly better looking than what they have starts befriending them, I think they decided to think with their nether region instead of their brains. But, I agree, great "friends" I had!

No STD test, because the 2nd OM wasn't intercourse. His face was down you know where when the OM's W caught them. I haven't had any PC with my W since prior to this last OM.

I've been working out. Can hardly eat a thing so when you combine the two, I've lost about 10lbs in 2 weeks. I've always wanted to lose weight but as you all know I wouldn't suggest this as the preferred weight loss plan....

She still isn't shedding any light on what her thoughts and feeling are. She said she wants to run everything by her IC first. Then she rambled on about how every other time in our M when we talk about stuff, I manipulate her into my way of thinking and she ends up caving to what I want, and she wants to be strong this time to decide for herself without getting scared and just agreeing with what I have to say, yada, yada, yada. I can't for the life of me understand where that's coming from, but I validated her thoughts by telling her I understand that she thinks that. I honestly feel like its more her rewriting history to justify why she won't tell me anything than anything else, but I just let it go....