You are teaching them to stay with someone who makes them unhappy because of the kids. No sane person would because that isn't the correct thing to do.
Benito, sometimes, I wonder if you have read DR...I dont understand this quote at all. I say by standing, he is teaching his children to honor his commitments. He is teaching them to stand for what they believe in. I think tucking and running just because his W is making him unhappy is kind of the opposite of what MWD writes about.
MWD isnt the rebirth of christ.. her work doesnt need to be followed to the word. In certain situations, other people might have more experience or real life experience of what works than she does. She is a women with an ability to sell her opinion..nothing more. Different strokes for different folks.
You dont need to wonder about me; I have read it, implemented it, and we purchase our second home together in a few weeks. So lets say I threw myself into it. And it worked.
This situation has not changed a single bit since it started. Its is the same chasing and desperate reactive behaviour it has been from the start. If someone comes to this board for help but then continues to do the same behaviour that is actually pushing her away - it tells me he knows what to do but is scared about the actual reality of moving away and actually coming to terms that this relationship is over and life is too ridiculously short to be trying to build trust with people who steal from you in your closet circle. If I knew one of my brothers or daughters were in a relationship like that I would not be happy.
A situation where one person is 100% certain the other person is stealing from them but continues to entertain her.
The same person that told us he has been caught out by this someone taking his money and treating him similar in the past.
I personally don't believe that we are getting the full story from David personally. We are told depression was involved - yet he also blames her for contributing to that bizarrely.
But some situations are not worth saving at one particular time because it isnt healthy. He is teaching them to be a door mat. Are you telling me their kids have never picked up on the dynamic in that home? how he is the one in pursuit mode? Of course they do. That isnt a good lesson to teach kids. You want to teach them kids that the commitment to himself as a person is less important than that of the person he is in a unhealthy relationship with?
I personally cant believe that you think that putting that behaviour in front of the your own pride and integrity is a lesson you should be teaching kids.
