SHE was being clingy to them? Who cares? What matters is what is right for the kids. Not her. Everything is about her her her.
W was creating a scene upsetting the kids saying goodbye so I suggested walking into the cafe to get a drink so to calm the kids.
Again, I dont see how rewarding that behavior makes sense. What is to stop her from being clingy again next time? Would you do that if your daughter was acting that way? Next time, have plans prepared and tell W you have to go immediately at drop off.
Originally Posted by DavidUK
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you were going to look at houses far away and your kids changed your mind as they liked family time?
I looked at houses online near to where I used to live because I feel the need to explore all options about where I might live in the future if I lose the home and kids which seems likely in a D. I've been very close to filing because I feel done but the kids want their home and parents together so I've tried to give it some time as I put them first.
Knowledge is power. I think it's good to at least know what your options are and to be prepared to make a decision when the time comes. Thats why we all keep pushing you to be contacting lawyers or real estate agents, or bankers to really understand all of the options.
Originally Posted by Benito
You are teaching them to stay with someone who makes them unhappy because of the kids. No sane person would because that isn't the correct thing to do.
Benito, sometimes, I wonder if you have read DR...I dont understand this quote at all. I say by standing, he is teaching his children to honor his commitments. He is teaching them to stand for what they believe in. I think tucking and running just because his W is making him unhappy is kind of the opposite of what MWD writes about.
Ultimately, I think it comes down to your goals, which I still think are fuzzy. I cant tell what you are trying to accomplish, so I think we are all assuming that your goal still includes reconciling with this woman and having a successful marriage in the future. If so, then I wonder what kind of "progress" you are making as some of your actions dont really seem aligned with that....
