I've been very close to filing because I feel done but the kids want their home and parents together so I've tried to give it some time as I put them first.
David, you have probably thought about it - but what does being close mean? The fact is you haven't. You are looking for excuses not to make a strong decisive move - hoping for a miracle that will mean you don't have to do it.
No child wants their parents to split up. Your situation isn't unique. But children can normally adjust to change i.e. with mum weekdays and dads at weekends for example - the problem here is that your actions are NOT helping the kids. It is NOT putting them first. You have no boundaries and its affecting them. Going for afternoon lunches - and looking warmly at each other the table or whatever happened is playing with their emotions.
What sort of message are you sending to your children dealing with this situation this way?
You are teaching them to stay with someone who makes them unhappy because of the kids. No sane person would because that isn't the correct thing to do.
