Mama, you nailed it. I’m sorry you’re going through this too. It is by far the most difficult thing I’ve ever experienced.
I went rogue today and I’m not proud. WHen H said via text he would stop seeing Ow and doesn’t want to hear about it anymore, I didn’t respond. He then texted more about me not responding and I said “it’s not worth a response. keep your lies to yourself”.
He then said he is being honest. And asked what I want us to do. Then he said, “If you'd had put half the effort over the years you are now maybe we wouldnt be in this.”
I told him I’m so disgusted by what he’s doing I wish I could have nothing to do with him. He said if I feel that way then we should end this. And then he said he wished he felt the same about me.... saying he wishes he felt like he wants nothing to do with me. Whatever
Long story short, we said nothing when he came over to see D and I left the house immediately.
I know this wasn’t good bc I shouldn’t have responded to any, I shouldn’t have texted him. I just needed to feel like I have my dignity. I needed him to know I didn’t believe his lies and I knew he was seeing her, and now he’s admitted it. And now he’s angry again but this time I don’t care. I’m done being so nice. He has flipped my world upside down. If this causes him to file then so be it.
You guys were all right. He was solidifying his plan A while keeping me around as plan b. That’s not right. I’m his wife. He needs to have respect for me. I’m so sick of him living that life with OW as if I’m unaware or all is well. All isn’t well. I’m not ok with it. I can’t change it, I know that. But me being as nice as I had been was so unnecessary and out of fear and I see it now.
