Equalzr's WW. Still accepting advice! Pt 3

[equalzr]

She had a husband who was always willing to change to try and make her happy.

I told my S that my W had worked really hard, took great care of us, and now she needed a break and we need to love her and be patient.

E,

I highlighted these statements to show you although you had good intentions this is the problem.

This is approval seeking behavior and really beta. You need to figure out who you are and own it. The right woman will come along and accept you for who you are and won't ask you to change to make her happy.

Another statement that sounds very beta. As the man and the leader of the house it is your job to take care of your family not hers.

Look man , I am not making excuses for her behavior. What i want to do is get you to learn from your mistakes and start to move forward taking action that will prevent this from happening to you again.

You should really start to think about what is your mission and purpose in life moving forward.

Thanks LH, i really needed that. I now realize that i really have lacked in the take charge department. I guess as far as change goes, what i mean to say is grow and mature in the R. I didnt know how lacking i was in the taking care of my family department. Dont get me wrong, ive worked my butt off for them and always been there for them, but i didnt take charge and didnt have a plan.

Im doing everything i can to better myself from this situation. As much as it hurts, and oh does it hurt, ive learned so much from this. I just wish i could grow with my W and family. Growth, development, and having a plan...all part of my forever plan now.

Ill come back to this in a bit...gotta run.