My husband says that the make-out session was a mistake, that they did not have sex, and that I have nothing to worry about with her--that the problem is between he and I. He states that he no longer loves me romantically as a result of being emotionally abandoned by me, but is willing to wait to see if the feeling returns (if it ever does).
What he is saying is this: OW is not ready to leave her husband and commit to your husband, therefore he wants you to wait in the wings as plan B until Plan A solidifies.
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I know that I am responsible for the bulk of this, and I am beside myself that I have hurt the person that I love the most. I am really feeling worthless.
This is hogwash. In what universe does someone retreating from someone else irrational anger give the angry one a right to go start an emotional connection with someone else, and make out with them (IF that is all that they have done).
You aren't perfect. You've made mistakes. But nothing justifies cheating. NOTHING. (Short of physical abuse.)
So read cadet's response, do all of that homework. And then continue to provide details and context of your sitch.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
