Kech, you can do this. You know what you need to do. We believe in you.
And you are free to not take our advice, no one is forcing you. You can reach out and you can ask questions. You are free to do this. Just know that you will more than likely feel worse about yourself and seem needy and desperate. You will feel worse knowing what you learn, if he even admits to anything. Also, he will most likely find some satisfaction in knowing that you are hanging on to him and he will be more secure that you are still available when and if he changes his mind.
I did this for many months and each time is set me back further!!!
Look, no one wants someone that is needy and desperate. Sorry, that is a hard truth. People are naturally attracted to those that are confident and strong. IMO, the waywards and walkaways that come running back are to the LBS that are not posing on these boards; they are the ones that have strong boundaries and turn their back and say, "nope, no way, I am done and moving on without this fool!"
More importantly, do you really want a man that can up and leave you and your baby? Not who you think he was or should be, who he is TODAY. A strong and confident woman does not want a cheater and an abandoner.
Start working on the strong and confident Kech, she is in there!!!
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
