Equalzr's WW. Still accepting advice! Pt 3

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My S seems to be doing worse in school lately, and his home life reflects his attitude as well. He seems to not really care about anything, and this was a problem before W started her A as well. She has a point about me being too lenient on him with everything he has been doing/not doing(but only since she abandoned us). Im concerned because he doesnt have any other outlets and interactions are mainly with mother and me. Im trying to pick my battles with him, choosing whats really important and W chooses to get in S's face about EVERYTHING. Its really hard for me to gice him the tough love he needs all the time while im aware of everything hes going through.

Obviously my W started in on me about not being hard enough on him. Then about my overall parenting abilities over the years(my S and W were my life). I told W im trying to make the best of this mess that was handed to us. She then accused me again of turning our S against her. Which is the opposite of what i did. She physically saw evidence that i supported her to S, but of course she conveniently ignored that. How does WW completely ignore her role in hurting S, and not being present for so much of the last 2 years??

When she switched to R talk and what i did to break down the marriage, i still validated where necessary but i still eventually stood up for myself. WW only tells part of the story, never the entire story which involves everything i did for the family and i let her know that.

I read one of Sandi's post yesterday which had to do with standing up for yourself. When WW tried to get loud i raised my voice and made sure i stood tall, made eye contact, and was uncomfortably close. That seemed to have gotten her attention. Thank you Sandi! Im so tired of turning the other cheek.

After everything that happened yesterday, im really hurting today. Physically im literally in pain.

HELP!!! Any advice?