CHL did share with me awhile ago a part of what this mornings mess was all about.
Unrelated but he also didn't go in Sunday like he was planning, we were discussing him being sick this weekend so I am ASSuming it was due to him being sick and not because he and J were doing something. Well, figured if I was going to ASSume it might as well be on the side that causes me less pain.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
My A called in the afternoon and wanted to know if we are or we aren't going to court on Wed. I told her I had no idea at this point in time he and I are still discussing settlement.
I called CHL to ask him so I could give her an answer. He said he didn't know. I said well what are the advantages to having a judge divide stuff versus us working it out? He said he wasn't sure there was one.
Trying to look at it from his perspective I am guessing he is still afraid if he cancels the court date I won't finish working the settlement out with him.
He is just insistent that he wants me to buy the house. It got a bit heated yesterday and I ended up crying. But it settled some before we got off the phone. He said he would call me last night.
He called a little after 10:00 and we talked for an hour. He is staying at his mom and dads a lot this week as they are out of town.
We chatted about his work problems, his mom and dads kitchen, their trip. Just shared and laughed a bit. Then he asked about house and I told him what I had found out and asked him what if we sell it? He said he didn't know he had never done this and had assumed I would buy it.
I said I would like to know my other options and dad wants a day or two to check on money.
He was supposed to let me know last night whether we were going to court or not. He said right then he was thinking not. But that isn't really an answer I can give my attorney.
Left him vm this morning, saying good morning hope he is feeling better and could he let me know by 3:30 today so I could give my A a call before she closes.
I guess when he seems to enjoy talking with me when he does and picking on me, and if he isn't serious about J I don't totally understand why he won't give this a try. My thought on that is he feels he did and I didn't work at it.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I said well what are the advantages to having a judge divide stuff versus us working it out? He said he wasn't sure there was one.