That one more drink situation triggered an emotional memory for him that you weren't prepared for or aware of. All you can do is validate his feelings and do your best to understand why he might feel that way. I actually kind of understand what he was thinking there. It's not the same, but it's obviously still scary to him. He didn't feel safe enough and his fear came out in the form of anger.
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how quickly time can go by when you're passionate about your work and given that I was too drunk to be aware of my surroundings that night or notice that my husband WASN'T outside smoking with the other husband like I thought he was....I just wanted him to know that he was making such a mistake to end our M over it. His response was "That is not why."
I think you should not bring this situation up right now, just my opinion. It's something that needs to be dealt with, but probably is going to be so hard to really deal with until he is ready to sit down and talk to you about it.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
