Wife is back for the most part, so in love right now, things are great. Counseling has been good I will keep going. Work hard folks it will pay off. I might have saved my marriage.
Congratulations Paul. That sounds like things are on the right track. One thing I have been reminding myself since we moved into full blown R in late March early April is that the work is NOT done.
In fact, I have had to be DILIGENT in maintaining my 180s. A couple of weeks ago I had something come up at home that used to make me anxious, and therefore lash out. I had to take deep breaths and keep repeating to myself "180. 180. 180." The point is that the work doesn't stop with R. Please remember this Paul. You should keep on working! Keep a healthy level of detachment (look up self differentiation in marriage). Keep GAL (most spouses find a busy, active partner to be attractive), and definitely cement any 180s firmly for the future.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
