A family starts with a healthy relationship between husband and wife.
You don’t have that because she doesn’t want to be with you anymore.
You constantly talk about how you would be willing to work at it, while ignoring the fact that if someone doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you then its over. No amount of work you do will change that. Relationships end all the time. People change. You keep looking at it as a package i.e family, home, kids… its all IRRELEVANT if one partner wants out. Which she does. You need to understand that and move on. You say you do, but then speak about giving her more time - as if she is going to wake up one morning and change her mind. It’s a fantasy. Its not happening.
There is no dilemma. The only dilemma is you thinking you can change things.
Take control of your life and stop basing your decisions on her because you are desperate to keep your family together. That family unit is gone unfortunately for you, because she doesn’t want to be a family with you. Its harsh but that simple. Accept it and do what you were advised to do months ago.
