You did a good job validating, but yes table the R talk. You'll know when it's time.
I know you are getting better all of this Did, you really are. Keep working! Detachment doesn't happen overnight, but realize the your W is going through hard stuff too. Let her get through and try to be the best guy you can - for her, but more for you. When she's struggling and you go R talk, I'm sure a lot of emotion came over here. And she might have meant every word she said. Or she might have been lying. Or her feelings might change tomorrow.
That's why you don't get too caught up in anything she says or does. I know you're feeling blue right now, but remember, there isn't a magic epiphany where everything goes back to being great. She might have her own moment where she commits to change, but give him time and let her come to you on this. Keep up the good work.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
