DB / Detach- Will we ever piece it together

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W says she changes how she feels daily. She told me she loves me and has butterflies last week. I think it comes down to push pull pursuit distance which is so u healthy. She knows it’s not fair to me or any man. She described herself as a mess. Crying pretty hard during conversation today. Told me I’m the best guy she knows. She doesn’t want to be with anyone else. But she needs space she isn’t mentally ready to be with anyone. She asked me to give her a day to herself. She knows her asking for space and pulling away hurts me. And she can’t stand it. I tried to validate and tell her I understand it’s hard etc. shouldn’t of talked so much about relationship even with her talking about it and saying she loved me.

Seeing her like she was today is so hard for me. And it must be harder on her. I was truly happy thinking we were trying to put things together. She was happy for like a while too she told me she loved the butterfly feelings. I feel sad like no motivation. I know I’m better than this and shouldnt allow her to affect me so much. However minimal progression I made detaching obviously wasn’t enough.

I told OW I was no where near ready for things she wants like marriage and kids and took a step back. She wa crying last night.

How long can I do this... do I just embrace DBing stop support. ANd see what she decides. Hurting right now. Thanks all. Yea I’m sure you saw this coming.