Thank you for your responses, I was beginning to worry that my lone post was going to go unanswered.
As I mentioned in my post above, we have been sharing the dog with each of us getting her every few weeks. Do you feel this is detrimental to my sitch? That has been the only contact I have really engaged in with my W and the majority of which has been text messages. I would rather not give up the dog completely just to go silent, is that wrong?
As far as if there is a OM...honestly I don't know. I am suspicious/jealous by nature (which could have been a contributor to the state of the R). I point blanked asked my W on 3 separate occasions including the day she moved out and she said know. I know what you said above about trust nothing she says, but why would she lie walking out the door with D on her mind? I will say that if you were look at the usual behaviors of a cheating S, my W does check a few of the boxes.
I thought about going the PI route or following her, but in end what does it matter if there is a OM present or not. At this point I am already heartbroken and while it may sound like I am burying my head in the sand, I did not see any personal benefit with finding out as it would not help me in anyway. I chose not to care...for now. As far as DB is concerned, I believe that steps I am taking are the same whether there is an OM or not, correct?
I am doing my best to detach, but as most of you already know, easier said than done. I have bad days and I have good days. It seems that as long as I am busy, I am fine. The hardest part of each day is at bed time where I cannot turn my brain off and falling asleep is impossible.
I also want to add, that reading these forums really helps me when I am in a funk. I am very thankful for everyone the posts/replies here.
