SD and the Friday night "Just Do It" experiment

[NotATLDave]

You guys, I'm just going to throw this in here because I've been shocked at the way I feel and how the things I wanted have changed. A couple months ago, I was wanting much more kissing, holding, cuddling, affection. Part of it was because I assumed it was part of the "physical relationship continuum" and I also assumed that an abundance of this behavior would lead up to more sex. Now, the reality I'm seeing is that the more I avoid these types of behavior, the more "unsettled" she's becoming (we know this feeling). Remember, her fuel tank for physical stuff is much smaller than our and you better be really careful about what you ask to fill her tank up with. By all means, if this boosts your emotional feelings towards her, that's great but keep your focus on the big issues first and ask her if that type of behavior is necessary. My W told me that she really doesn't need that (which unfortunately means that it's hard to convert non-sexual physical stuff into sex). Don't get me wrong, we are cuddling, kissing a little more than we used to but not as much as I thought we "should". I promise that regular sex will make you see things differently. My W was irritated that she originally felt compelled (aka manipulated) to be more affectionate but later I said I didn't need as much.