Not telling your kids until Thanksgiving? How would you feel if your parents kept this kind of secret from you for almost 2 months? And why are you keeping this a secret? B/c your H wants to keep the illusion going and you're happy to help him?
You are right. I don't feel comfortable with it and never did. I told the kids I was going to visit them in a few weeks. I think I will inform H that I'm telling them, and he can either choose to come or not. I think it's in their best interest for us both to do it together, but I have no control over his decision. Thanks for the kick in the pants.
