Quote: I propose to throw away the condoms and announce to W when she comes home on Tuesday that I don't think we should ML again until I am certified infertile which will be about 7 weeks. Instead we should work together on trying to gain some basic emotional connection and just re-learn how to cuddle, kiss and enjoy each other's company without the pressure of sex.
That sounds like an EXCELLENT idea, Dave! At the very LEAST, her reaction to the idea (and its execution) will give you a TON of information, about you, her, and the two of you...
Quote: I think that we are different to the couples that Schnarch uses in his examples because thay are having sex regularly but it has gotten boring. He improves it with his hugging and eyes open techniques. We don't have the luxury of a sex life to build on. We need to build it from scratch.
Not chapter 11. That deals with a wife who WILL NOT agree to sex - it'd be fine with her if they NEVER did it again... hold onto your seat!
