Davide I think you answered your own question when you said "my own readiness". As far as "dating" maybe the word and what it conveys is more the problem. How about more like "I'm interested in meeting new ladies with no expectations"? Given your circumstances and with all due respect to the sanctity of marriage, would getting out to do something as simple as that be wrong? My personal opinion is no, but the only real answer is when YOU are ready.
And if W left you and is already with OM, how much of your sitch is HER doing and how much is owned by you? I mean if she has moved on, are you truly in need of that much self reflection OR were you basically a good but imperfect husband and it is SHE that really needs the work? Again ALL of us can do much to improve ourselves as partners for sure, but just because we find ourselves in these circumstances does not directly mean that we have a huge mountain of self reflection, internal work, etc to do to become whole again. Sometimes if the other person just bails out...hope you get where I'm going with this.
We can give you the gamut of opinions, only you will know when you are ready. Main thing is you have no need to rush. For sure when trying to move forward we are all just trying to find our new path, allow yourself the time to let it come natural.
