How can one still have Hope....but without the expectations?
I think you and I are in similar spots mentally. See my "Why Have Hope" thread. For me I have decided to not have hope. Don't get me wrong, I still pray that my W will come out of the fog, but I have started to think about it as I'm already divorced. Chances of R are probably similar to the odds that two people remarry (10%). I have to detach when the probability that we won't reconcile is 90%. I've found it helps with my confronting my W's dominant mare attributes. I'm starting to get back to my alpha male attributes before we were married. I'm cordial, validating, but I'm also fighting for things I believe in (in a respectful way).
Basically, I'm doing what I need to do to take care of myself and my girls. The rest is "Thy will be done."
