You might want to read The 5 love languages by Gary Chapman. It will help shine the light on a lot of issues you and your W might have had (I know it did in my case).
Originally Posted by Davide
Vapo, I agree that I definitely need to keep working on myself and getting myself into a better place for me. I just wonder. Isn't that the work of a lifetime? Isn't that something that all of us need to do constantly in order to keep growing? It just makes me think that there will never be a single point in my life where I think to myself "Hey, I'm in good shape now. I'm ready to date," and waiting for that moment might become counterproductive. All of us are fundamentally flawed, imperfect beings even at our best. You still may very well be right that I'm not there yet. I can certainly see where my desire to move towards a new and different future could cloud my vision and make it harder to clearly see my own state.
Yes, it is a work of a lifetime. And you can't even imagine how much you can grow from where you are right now. You can even develop superpowers. And I am not kidding. If you play your cards right you might develop an unbelievable sort of intuition. You will be able to spot liars from 100 feet and you can develop your inner voice that's always right to serve as your sidekick.
The bottom dime is that you have to fall in love with yourself first. You have to love yourself unconditionally. Only then will you attract the right kind of people into your life.
