ovr, this is all tough stuff. It is like the WW that wants to have sex. How do you say no? You know you want to have sex with her but turning her down might actually be the right move. It is so hard.

This is all part of the separation paradox as I refer to it now, which is those that live with their WAS during limbo hate it, and those that are separated from their WAS during limbo hate it. If those that were living with their WAS during limbo switched and were separated, they'd hate it. And vice-versa.

Bottom line is everyone hates limbo, no matter your living sitch. But limbo is the gift of time. Use it wisely. Make the most of it. Detach, GAL, 180. Be the spouse only a fool would leave. Then let her make the choice. That is what you want. You want her to choose. Whether it is for or against the MR, you want her to choose OR you will be back here in no time.

So stay the course. It is hard, but just keep DBing. And dolling out the excellent advice you've been giving to others.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018