Quote: Seahog, I may be out of line here, but integrity compels me to speak up. I, for one, find your handle offensive. If you really think that way about your wife, you're not going to get very far no matter what you try, and nobody here will really be able to offer you much help, if any. To think that way about another person is to dehumanize them, which is about the most unhelpful thing when trying to improve a relationship. If you're not trying to improve your relationship, you're in the wrong place.
There... I've said my piece, and I won't say anything more on the subject. Do what you will, or nothing...
sorry Tim, didn't mean to offend you. I find that handle humerous and have no intention of changing it or dehumanizing my wife. She is a very complex and intriguing woman who I am absolutely crazy about.
Friday night is looming again but I'm not anticipating much action as W is leaving to stay with MIL early Saturday morning so there will be a lot of packing and other stress. I do intend to initiate though and if the "pressure" word comes up I will make sure that she understands that I do not consider that I am pressuring her and that the "pressure" entirely belongs to her and is for her to choose to deal with in her own way. Does that sound OK to you differentiated guys? SD
Well, my son responds the same way if I use the word "crap", for instance. He would just like it if I were more demure and "mature", but I think it's healthy for children to see their parents as real people so I don't repress myself too much. Boys who's moms wear Burkas probably have Oedipal conflicts too. Besides I'm Gen-X-Post-Freudian so I don't put too much stock in that crap anyways.LOL
MM(Mom with great breasts)
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Pressure pressure pressure. SD, all I can say is, it's okay to ask and to state a preference, just don't expect anything. (I know how difficult this is to put into practice). And you're right: it's not pressure, but she may perceive it that way. I mean, you're not putting a gun to her head.
One thing I've always said to myself: If you don't ask, you're not giving them an opportunity to say 'yes'.
Meanwhile, I'll be sleeping in a hotel room in Paducah, Kentucky tonight after driving for 7 hours - so no action or attempt on my part. Then, we spend a couple days with her dad, so no action most likely. Then, we spend 4 nights camping. There may be some action here, as, suprisingly, she suggested that we bring DD3's "little tent." Keep your fingers crossed, SSM community.
