Re: OK here goes first post... pt 4

[Benito]

I said to W it was starting to have a bad impact upon the kids and this was her choice.

I said I realise that she is probably too afraid to discus her point of view

I said that she used to be lovely and that I now felt sorry for her as I thought she was better than what she has been doing

Please Please Please.. tell me you didn't say those things.. that is one of the worst thing you could of done.

The only person you are fooling is yourself here. You do things that are completely wrong and then try and justify them because it suits your narrative. You are adding to much pressure and come across very desperate.

If you were fearless about losing W as you claim - then you wouldnt be saying to her what you are saying - you are completely contradicting yourself. Say one thing - then act the complete opposite.

You are not an expert in this - otherwise you would be in this situation. What is the point in coming here for people to advise you - and then you do the opposite because you feel desperate and scared?