26 and trying to save a marriage

[Rose888]

The good news is, you are very young, so you have a long time to benefit from any personal growth.

The bad news is, you have a h3ll of a lot of growing to do before you are decent partner material.

I strongly encourage you to leave your wife alone, get an individual counselor, and throw all your energy into self improvement. Don't tie this to your wife's behavior or whether she notices what you are doing. You need to make these changes whether or not she wants to work on the marriage. And frankly, you're not ready to be a good partner, so take advantage of the time to work on you.