No. I felt sorry for her due to all the deceit she has been doing and that she never used to be that sort of person.
"Is the thing I'm about to say going to bring me closer to my H or further away?"
I think W is afraid to admit what she's done, is extremely stubborn, and is in denial and defensive. Calling out the BS in a very calm way and saying I understand and won't get angry about it might help to take away some of her fear.
About the advice from a friend, I said that in a humorous way but she is fortunate that I've been calm whereas most people wouldn't be. My counsellor pointed that out to me a few days ago.
