You can start here, and keep reading, there are many threads. You will find that she is asking all the same questions and has the same concerns; it's a lot, but well worth your time!!!

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2808674#Post2808674

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