thanks ovrr. i am, we both are, everyday just trying to be better and stronger. it’s just mind boggling that WW attends D14’s IC and yet she doesn’t listen/follow through with the IC’a advise / recommendations. What WW wants is for D14 to do the needed work to fix their R, and i know it’s not just up to D14 to do all the work, WW has to do something else.I would like to say something to WW during D14’s IC, but am conflicted if i need to say it. it goes something to this effect;
LBH; hey WW, we need to address the elephant in the room, and that is you’re having an A. and your D14 hates whatever you’re doing. You just cannot force D14 to fix your R with her, because you’re in a situation she despises. You just cannot assert your authority as a parent by yelling or raising your voice at her. The minute you hit her, you became equals, yes you are her mother and according to her she came out of you and that is how far she thinks your R is with her. Truthfully, as long as in you’re in this A, she won’t and will not put any effort to fix on whatever R you force her into. According to you, you found a place of your own, and yet after days of being out, you come home, shower and get ready for work. D14 knows you are living with POS, apparently you haven’t invited her to your new place and she’s asking me if i know your address. I think you just need to be honest with her, stop the lies and just maybe your R with her might still be salvageable.”
Anybody have any thoughts/comments/suggestions? Should i just not say anything?
