Here we go again.

[ovrrnbw]

You're jumping back into things without a commitment from her. You're ignoring the issues and letting her slide on the hard stuff.

How do you know she went NC with the OM? You can't access her tablet, right? So maybe she's using that. Obviously she is not opposed to sneaking around when it suits her.

You are not telling her what to do, you are telling what you won't do b/c she has betrayed you and thus you have no trust. Gotta stiffen up here or else you'll be back to square one.

When you pushed on a harder issue, she threw a fit and ran away. You didn't come back to it and work on it, did you? In fact, you even posted that this is a recurring theme for her. My dad does the same thing, and thus I have been trained in similar fashion. Does that really work for you?

She wouldn't show you the text until she saw it first, which means she knows it could have been something bad.

Also, she is still super wishy washy. I think you're just seeing what you want to see and so happy to have her back that you are letting her get away with anything she wants.

Anyways I suck at DB'ing but this is what I saw. I've been through a lot with my W so I know how you feel and think you deserve better.