As an indication of our state of fusion, W has been really nice to me over the last couple of days since I told her to "get a grip on reality" after her outburst to me regarding my trying to discuss the plot of her favourite soap opera. I guess she is reacting to my slight differentiation (ie. I have stopped holding back from things that she does not like me doing but that I see no harm in, such as trying to converse while the TV is on and cuddling/kissing her when I feel attracted to her and I have stood up to her when I think she's out of order). The sort of things she has been doing that are out of character are that she has held my hand spontaneously a couple of times and also run her hands around my shoulders as she walked past me when I was sitting at the table. She is going to stay with MIL for a long weekend so Friday will be our last night together for a few days. Hopefully it will be memorable... I was quite pleased with myself for "self soothing" especially as W noticed how much better I handled a particular situation than she did. DD16 was with a friend in the "den" and they were rattling away on MSN Messenger on the computer. W went in and asked her who she was chatting to and DD16 told her to "go away". W does not like being given that sort of cheek and told her off severely in front of her friend. Later W and D16 were talking about something and when I chipped in with some innocuous statement, DD16 told me to “Be quiet, your opinions don’t count”! My blood started to heat up rapidly but just before it began to boil I managed to self soothe and just said something like “Whatever…”. Later W told me she was surprised and pleased that I had not been angry with D16. A good result I’d say. SD
