I think its actually a good sign of healing that things feel like they were a lifetime away!
My ex was not a charismatic type of personality. He was actually very intelligent and the type others relied on when they needed things done perfectly.
But i do remember he could not handle discomfort of any type. He needed instant gratification. Like we were going to a expensive restaurant that was far away and he was hungry, so we actually stopped so he could grab a slice of pizza before we went to the restaurant. Or back when you rented movies... if the movies he wanted to watch were not available because someone else had rented it, he would actually buy the movie for 20 bucks instead of just waiting a week to watch it. I remember way back then, how i thought what a waste of money.
